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Naughty Egg Nog Recipe

Nothing says Christmas more than egg nog!

It is one of my favorite things about the holiday season. I like it nice but love it naughty😉

Here’s my super easy naughty recipe for the perfect Spiked Egg Nog!

  1. Combine equal parts egg nog
  2. Stir
  3. Pour the mix into fancy glasses
  4. Garnish with a sprinkle of nutmeg for taste and aesthetics!
  5. BOOM! You have a sexy drank and a nice buzz!

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Why it’s essential to wear a primer! Milk Blur Stick (Primer) Product Review

When you’re going out for a night on the town, the last thing you want to worry about is your makeup smearing, caking or looking “done” before you’re finished with your fun. That’s why wearing a primer is critical!

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What is a makeup primer?

Primer is the base you apply before your foundation or your eyeshadow which allows your makeup to be applied easier and last longer. They come in all different forms such a gel, powder or cream.

Nitty gritty response: If you want to be beat to the Gawds all night long, chile wear a primer!

I’m always interested in trying new products and was excited when  Milk Makeup provided me with the Blur Stick complimentary to try! And babyyyyy, when I said I applied my makeup at 6pm and it lasted to 1am – two snaps and a twirl! 💃🏾

First Impressions

I have combination skin with blemishes and I loved how this primer didn’t break me out, cause irritation or feel heavy on my skin.

The applicator is easy to roll on. It’s almost like deodorant or you can use your fingers if you prefer.

It is interestingly colorless for all skin tones despite the color of the product! With it being clear, it’s hard to actually see you’ve applied the product. I would recommend taking your time applying it to ensure you’ve covered all spots! Feel free to use your fingers for the corners and crevices.

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On my journey to amazing skin, I’ve been definitely paying more attention to products I’m using and their ingredients.

  • Silicone-free and oil-free (prevents your pores from clogging)
  • Dimethicone-free (which could cause skin irritation and is a non-biodegradable chemical)
  • Vegan
  • Gluten-free
  • Cruelty-free (not tested on animals)

What it is formulated WITHOUT:

Final Look

Overall Review The product is light weight, easy to apply and non- problematic for troubled skin. Personally, I don’t have large pores to see a huge difference but did love the overall feel and results of the product for long wear! I wouldn’t personally use it without foundation due to my blemishes (one day I’ll be blemish free and you won’t be able to TELL 👏🏾 ME 👏🏾 NOTHING!)

If you’ve tried this brand, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Comment below!

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How to Say “No,” to them and “Yes.” to You!

How I learned to say no while retaining valuable relationships.

No. Not “No,..” not “No;…” just a simple “No.” There is so much power in being able to say no to people, events or things that don’t benefit you mentally, physically or financially. Although I’d admit, it is easier said than done…

My personality has always been very inviting and magnetic to meeting new people, making people feel comfortable and ensuring they are having a great time. I am the person who will make the new person in the group feel at ease by making sure they are introduced to everyone and making sure they have a dranky drank, too. Let’s face it, Ruby likes a lil’ sarsaparilla! (Shrugs) With that being said, I can find myself wanting to be a people pleaser.

I often find myself wanting to attend every event, showing up all the time and being super supportive which is where my inability to say no comes into play.

It’s not that I wouldn’t enjoy attending these events or the time being surrounded by friends and family but sometimes there are just things that take precedent. Those things could be me running around for a basketball tournament for my oldest son, or creating content for my blog, or just sitting on the couch catching up on my shows. (I am a reality TV connoisseur – I can’t help it! Recent highlight from reality TV I love is Marlo fixing Nene’s bun while in the middle of an argument. I was done! LOL)

The point is – it’s MY time and I choose how I want to spend MY time. During my pregnancy, this truly came to light for me. Grandma was just tired, y’all. There were times where I didn’t want to do much of anywthing nor go much of anywhere and “No.” became my friend. I was saying no with pride and feeling good! Now, the gag is, (spoiler alert) I am no longer pregnant. I can no longer use being pregnant as an excuse for not going, doing or participating but I’ve learned that I don’t need an excuse. I need the conviction of knowing what’s best for me and sticking to it. Time is of the essence! Life is too short to completely put your all into things that don’t reciprocate the same value!

Don’t feel like you have to justify your “No.” with a comma, semicolon or an explanation!

Now, I am not saying just abandon everyone and miss everything because that’s just wrong LOL Of course, there are certains things that you just don’t miss such as milestone events. You make time for what’s important!

Did I fear people feeling some kind of way and drifitng away from me? Yes, but I had to realize something.Those who matter won’t mind. Those who mind, don’t matter! Relationships are meant to evolve and those who are truly there for you will understand and may even learn to take a page from your book (if they haven’t already)! Take care of your boo boo! Feed your soul with the time you need to accomplish your goals, replenish your energy with self-love and care THEN worry about the rest.

Have you been exercising your right to say no?

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The world needs what you have!

It’s on you to share your talents, no one else!

People get so wrapped up wondering what others will say if they try multiple things. So you started on business, it didn’t work, now you want to try another one? So you got a degree in Economics but now you want to get into marketing? SO WHAT! DO IT!

People will judge you for not doing it their way. People will invoke THEIR societal stands and fears on you – don’t let them! It’s so important to live YOUR life for YOU! I can’t stress this enough.

You don’t know what you’ll be successful at unless you try it. You don’t know what will make you TRULY happy, unless you try it! The world needs what you have, so why are you waiting to give it? I’ll wait.


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DIY Whipped Shea Body Butter


Winter time is here and dry skin is near!


In this video, I will show you a quick and easy 3 step process to make the most nourishing whipped shea body butter to keep you moisturized and soft!


Shea Butter
Organic Coconut Oil

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It’s been a long time, shouldn’t of left you..

Hey y’all, guess who’s back?! ME!


I admit, I took a break from blogging during my pregnancy to enjoy the ride and fully embraced in the moment. Now, Nasir is here! And, you guys, I am obsessed with him. Like just watch him breathe while he’s sleep obsessed LOL I am reliving my oldest, Amari, being a baby and loving every second of it! But, I am ready to get back into the swing of things! I missed y’all!

Stay tuned for a video post this week discussing my hiatus and what you can look forward to in the future!

Stay tuned,

It’s me, Ruby B. Stay tuned to learn more about how it is “To Be Ruby!”

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Ruby’s Recipes: Pan Seared Salmon Salad 

As much as I love seafood, I could slick be a pescatarian if I didn’t love me a good porterhouse steak, bbq and tacos! I mean, really I just love to eat.

Ain’t no shame in my game. (flips hair)

Nonetheless, I try to balance my ogre (think pretty version of Fiona in Shrek) pregnancy appetite with healthy options. Salads are a course an easy healthy option but I feel like I ALWAYS eat chicken salads. From time to time, I like to switch it up and add salmon for a fresh, light and swankier taste. Recipe below!

Ingredients for Pan Seared Salmon:

Salmon filet

Lemon Pepper Seasoning

Olive Oil



Salmon is a very delicate fish and you have to ensure to prepare it correctly or it’ll be tough instead of its intended light and flaky texture!



Season salmon with lemon pepper and black pepper by generously sprinkling on top.

Rub in seasoning with your fingers to evenly distribute and create an outer coating

Heat pan on medium – high (cast iron is my favorite) with just enough olive oil to cover the bottom of the skillet to ensure your salmon doesn’t stick!

Place salmon in skillet (non-skin side face down) and let sear for 3 minutes.

The best way to know when to flip the salmon, as with all fish, is by testing it with a little trick! With a spatula, try to flip it. If you feel hesitation, it’s not ready!

Once ready, flip then cook on the other side for another 3 minutes. Salmon is done when it flakes easily with a fork. Squeeze fresh lemon juice for refreshing lemony taste!

Top salmon on your favorite salad mixture! For me, it is baby romaine lettuce, spinach, avocado, boiled egg, cherry tomatoes, shredded cheese with balsamic vinaigrette. Healthy and delecatble meal in under 20 minutes!

How did you yours come out?

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Baby Brown’s Gender Reveal!

The time is here to find out the gender of Baby Brown!

In preparation for the party, I knew I wanted a simple menu with delectable appetizers under the theme of “beau” or “bow.”  The menu consisted of “baby” items that were small and/or bite size such as baby quesadillas, baby meatballs, beef sliders, mini pulled chicken bbq sandwiches, baby carrots, cucumbers and broccoli, fruit cups,  taco dip, salsa with scoops chips & salsa and cake pops!



We really wanted to be completely surprised and find out with all of your loved ones! In order to keep it a complete surprise, we had the doctor write down the gender of the baby and seal the envelope before giving it to us.


We had NO CLUE of the baby’s gender! Then, we took the envelope, blue and pink confetti to Jewel-Osco, ironically Party City will not fill the balloon with confetti, and had them fill the balloon with the correct color confetti! It was not until we popped the balloon that we found out with every one!


Outfit details, click links below to shop my look! 

 White Button Up Shirt Dress

White Corset Waist Belt

Gold Jeweled Choker


Did I mention I made my own SnapChat filter?


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Meet the Browns: Pregnancy Announcement!

I’ve been keeping a secrettttttt 😏 We are very excited to share the newest member of the Brown family will be joining us September 2017!

Did I design custom shirts for the whole family for a mini pregnancy announcement photo shoot? Ummmm is my name Ruby? 😩😂 Yassss for the dramatics, I LIVEEEEE! Y’all don’t know how excited I am to finally take these photos and share the news with the world!

Now that the cats out the bag. Feel free to drop suggestions on how to stay healthy during pregnancy while wanting to eat like an ogre 😩 I’m hungry now. Signing off, got to go eat. We liveeee baby!

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Life Lessons with Ruby: “If it don’t fit, don’t force it!”

Life Lessons with Ruby:

“If it don’t fit, don’t force it!”


By now, yall know my parents were the kings and queens of sayings and life mottos. (Hey Mommy and Daddy! *Insert wave* As a child, I can remember this saying being shared when trying to stuff a toy in an overfilled toy box or squeeeeezing myself into a tight cubby hole to play in and my parent’s very vividly would say, “If it don’t fit, don’t force it!”

As a I reflect on this saying, (despite the gramtactial errors of it LOL) it makes me think of the relevance that it provides to my adult life in decisions amongst my personal growth, relationships and professional development.

As I ventured into the journey of entrepreneurship, I was quite unsure of what I wanted to do. Yes, of course I want to be a full time entrepreneur, creating my own destiny, flexibility to spend time with my family and ultimately creating a legacy that lives beyond me. Ok, great buttttt, HOW do I want to do “that”? What does “that” consist of? Social media provides accessibility to see other people in their passion. I knew I could do anything…. but what did I LOVE to do? Researching, thinking of my passions, joining mastermind groups and participating in webinars really helped me to hone in to my true heart’s desire.

I am true people person! I love hosting events, entertaining, engaging with people, hearing their stories and sharing my knowledge in all realms of lifestyle and beauty topics such as personal life challenges of balancing being a mother, wife and ultimately a woman. Sharing my favorite recipes, fashion, beauty tips and secrets coupled with the ability to meet masses of people via the internet lead to the creation of To Be Ruby!

Could I have become a fitness guru selling personal training, meal plans and exercise plans? Yes, but that’s not my passion (and let’s face it, I am not a size 2 and love macaroni and cheese, tewwww much.)

The point is, if it doesn’t fit don’t force it.

If you are not happy in your current career, don’t force yourself into staying just because of the considerable pay, or that you spent 4 years getting that degree and dreading those student loans – it’s not worth it! Now, I am not saying go quit your job and become a floating spirit in the Cayman Islands (unless you can afford to which leads to me being envious (isnert emoji) because child bills still need to be paid. You gotta eat and how you going watch your favorite reality shows if you don’t have electricity? I’ll wait.   What I am saying is, channel that unhappiness to a passion to pursue what makes you truly happy. If you love creating oil paintings, come home every night and work on your paintings, market them on social media, build a brand to help you launch yourself into that preferred field!

Now, not everyone wants to be an entrepreneur which is perfectly fine, it’s not meant for everybody and shouldn’t be forced on everybody!

If you want to stay in corporate America but want to switch careers from finance to marketing, share your passion with your current manager, ask for additional projects that would give you those transferrable skills to transition into the new field and network with the department that you are interested in. Don’t wait around and HOPE that life happens to you. Make it happen!

When it comes to relationships with friends, family and/or significant others, “If it doesn’t fit, don’t force it!”  If they are not pouring into you as much as you pour into them, Nino said it best, CANCEL THEM!

Life is tewwww short to chase relationships, chase companionship and to chase people who don’t want to be there! If you stop reaching out to them, will they call? If the answer is no, they need ta go! I will not invest energy into things or people who don’t make me happy. Neither should you, boo boo. After all, why would you want to surround yourself with people who don’t appreciate you or your presence? Their presence is no longer needed, dismissed.

Have you noticed that you are forcing tasks, things or people that don’t fit in your life? If so, what are you going to do about it? Comment below.

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