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Merry Christmas 🎄🎁

We tackled Christmas like tag teammm back again, check it to wreck it, let’s begin!

Bay did pretty much all the shopping for the boys and I did all house decorating and wrapping. Team work makes the dream work!

It reminds me of our relationship, we balance out tasks, obstacles and challenges by dividing and conquering. Shopping is more time consuming and tedious than wrapping but he knows all the things Amari is into, the systems the games goes with and all the basketball clothes to get. Of course, I provide suggestions and weigh in on gifts but he knows all the gadgets, games and random stuff Amari loves lol I, on the other hand, know how to wrap to get he home Christmas ready and wrap gifts like a beast 💁🏽‍♀️(Dress it up and make it real for me!)

So, we focus on our strengths and help each other with our weaknesses. It’s what works for US and that’s what I love! We ensure we do what makes us happy and focus on just that.

How do you balance in your relationship?

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Naughty Egg Nog Recipe

Nothing says Christmas more than egg nog!

It is one of my favorite things about the holiday season. I like it nice but love it naughty😉

Here’s my super easy naughty recipe for the perfect Spiked Egg Nog!

  1. Combine equal parts egg nog
  2. Stir
  3. Pour the mix into fancy glasses
  4. Garnish with a sprinkle of nutmeg for taste and aesthetics!
  5. BOOM! You have a sexy drank and a nice buzz!

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Why it’s essential to wear a primer! Milk Blur Stick (Primer) Product Review

When you’re going out for a night on the town, the last thing you want to worry about is your makeup smearing, caking or looking “done” before you’re finished with your fun. That’s why wearing a primer is critical!

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What is a makeup primer?

Primer is the base you apply before your foundation or your eyeshadow which allows your makeup to be applied easier and last longer. They come in all different forms such a gel, powder or cream.

Nitty gritty response: If you want to be beat to the Gawds all night long, chile wear a primer!

I’m always interested in trying new products and was excited when  Milk Makeup provided me with the Blur Stick complimentary to try! And babyyyyy, when I said I applied my makeup at 6pm and it lasted to 1am – two snaps and a twirl! 💃🏾

First Impressions

I have combination skin with blemishes and I loved how this primer didn’t break me out, cause irritation or feel heavy on my skin.

The applicator is easy to roll on. It’s almost like deodorant or you can use your fingers if you prefer.

It is interestingly colorless for all skin tones despite the color of the product! With it being clear, it’s hard to actually see you’ve applied the product. I would recommend taking your time applying it to ensure you’ve covered all spots! Feel free to use your fingers for the corners and crevices.

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On my journey to amazing skin, I’ve been definitely paying more attention to products I’m using and their ingredients.

  • Silicone-free and oil-free (prevents your pores from clogging)
  • Dimethicone-free (which could cause skin irritation and is a non-biodegradable chemical)
  • Vegan
  • Gluten-free
  • Cruelty-free (not tested on animals)

What it is formulated WITHOUT:

Final Look

Overall Review The product is light weight, easy to apply and non- problematic for troubled skin. Personally, I don’t have large pores to see a huge difference but did love the overall feel and results of the product for long wear! I wouldn’t personally use it without foundation due to my blemishes (one day I’ll be blemish free and you won’t be able to TELL 👏🏾 ME 👏🏾 NOTHING!)

If you’ve tried this brand, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Comment below!

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How to Say “No,” to them and “Yes.” to You!

How I learned to say no while retaining valuable relationships.

No. Not “No,..” not “No;…” just a simple “No.” There is so much power in being able to say no to people, events or things that don’t benefit you mentally, physically or financially. Although I’d admit, it is easier said than done…

My personality has always been very inviting and magnetic to meeting new people, making people feel comfortable and ensuring they are having a great time. I am the person who will make the new person in the group feel at ease by making sure they are introduced to everyone and making sure they have a dranky drank, too. Let’s face it, Ruby likes a lil’ sarsaparilla! (Shrugs) With that being said, I can find myself wanting to be a people pleaser.

I often find myself wanting to attend every event, showing up all the time and being super supportive which is where my inability to say no comes into play.

It’s not that I wouldn’t enjoy attending these events or the time being surrounded by friends and family but sometimes there are just things that take precedent. Those things could be me running around for a basketball tournament for my oldest son, or creating content for my blog, or just sitting on the couch catching up on my shows. (I am a reality TV connoisseur – I can’t help it! Recent highlight from reality TV I love is Marlo fixing Nene’s bun while in the middle of an argument. I was done! LOL)

The point is – it’s MY time and I choose how I want to spend MY time. During my pregnancy, this truly came to light for me. Grandma was just tired, y’all. There were times where I didn’t want to do much of anywthing nor go much of anywhere and “No.” became my friend. I was saying no with pride and feeling good! Now, the gag is, (spoiler alert) I am no longer pregnant. I can no longer use being pregnant as an excuse for not going, doing or participating but I’ve learned that I don’t need an excuse. I need the conviction of knowing what’s best for me and sticking to it. Time is of the essence! Life is too short to completely put your all into things that don’t reciprocate the same value!

Don’t feel like you have to justify your “No.” with a comma, semicolon or an explanation!

Now, I am not saying just abandon everyone and miss everything because that’s just wrong LOL Of course, there are certains things that you just don’t miss such as milestone events. You make time for what’s important!

Did I fear people feeling some kind of way and drifitng away from me? Yes, but I had to realize something.Those who matter won’t mind. Those who mind, don’t matter! Relationships are meant to evolve and those who are truly there for you will understand and may even learn to take a page from your book (if they haven’t already)! Take care of your boo boo! Feed your soul with the time you need to accomplish your goals, replenish your energy with self-love and care THEN worry about the rest.

Have you been exercising your right to say no?

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The world needs what you have!

It’s on you to share your talents, no one else!

People get so wrapped up wondering what others will say if they try multiple things. So you started on business, it didn’t work, now you want to try another one? So you got a degree in Economics but now you want to get into marketing? SO WHAT! DO IT!

People will judge you for not doing it their way. People will invoke THEIR societal stands and fears on you – don’t let them! It’s so important to live YOUR life for YOU! I can’t stress this enough.

You don’t know what you’ll be successful at unless you try it. You don’t know what will make you TRULY happy, unless you try it! The world needs what you have, so why are you waiting to give it? I’ll wait.


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